Text/Phone Game
Do not read this post on Text/Phone Game until you have gotten the hang of using the model detailed in the OP, Managing Expectations, and Lowering ASD. Information overload will hinder your progress.
First things first, in order to initiate contact through a phone you must have the girl's phone number. In reference to the compliance ladder, getting a phone number is actually pretty low on it. You only need as much compliance to get a phone as getting her to accept a hug, and with a lot of girls you don't even need that much. Once you've gone through those first few steps on the compliance ladder, simply asking to exchange contact information will suffice.
There's a rule in business that goes something like "Face to face is always better than a phone call, and a phone call is always better than an email." Business and pickup have many of the same rules, and this one is no exception. Let's say that email and text messaging are on equal level.
Since we are prioritizing face to face interactions, the goal of calling and texting is ultimately arranging a meet up. You cannot fuck her through a phone. Phone sex is unsatisfying and sexting is for teens who hang out at the mall. Leave the children's play to the children.
Keep the texting minimal and at most just use fluff talk to further establish a sexual frame. For example, mass text "Hey sexy" to every attractive girl in your phone. For every girl that replies, just keep it simple and don't try anything but shallow, flirty conversation. There's a very big chance that you could fuck things up over text and a very small chance that you'll actually get anywhere with it, so don't even bother trying to "build attraction" or whatnot here.
A good general rule to follow when it comes to arranging a meet up is to do it via phone call instead of text. Use text just to check up on girls from time to time to see how they're doing and to tell them (mass text) about parties you're going to and shit like that. If you're too shy to talk about the more important shit (like arranging a meet up) with your voice, too fucking bad. The only way to get over a fear is by doing the thing you fear. You will teach yourself how to be more confident through experience.
It's definitely OK to use phone calls to just shoot the shit and have shallow, flirty conversations, too. In fact, I highly encourage doing so before you try arranging a meet up. It'll get the girl accustomed to just talking to you without any pressure. How do you have a shallow and flirty conversation? Talk about anything while ramping up your sexual state as you would be doing face to face. You'll find the answer while you're in that state. It's like only being able to find the answer to a zen koan only through the state of meditation.
The main key to talking on the phone is to be relaxed, unless you're genuinely excited and pumped up about something. For the sake of simplicity, I'll only talk about being relaxed for phone game in this guide.
Take a deep breath before you call her. Or, if you find it more effective/relaxing to just impulsively call without allowing yourself to think and get nervous about it, do that. What I actually do is to put myself into somewhat of a tired/sleepy state before dialing. I may even yawn before pressing that green button. That pretty much exaggerates my relaxed tone but that's just fine.
Shoot the shit, ask her what she's up to, tell her what you're up to, follow the conversation guide in the OP, etc. Talk about whatever the hell you want to talk about. It doesn't matter. Then, ask her what she's doing on a day that you have time to hang out with her. If she's busy on that day, ask her when she's free to hang out. Ask her if she wants to do something with you. Have a plan. The plan itself it up to you. If she's making herself completely unavailable, you probably needed more work on the previous step of the compliance ladder. It's OK; you can easily go out and meet a dozen more women.
And it really is as simple as that.
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