Étudions aussi les couples qui durent.
La caractéristique numero 1 qui permet de déterminer le succès d'une relation :
- les partenaires se tournent l'un vers l'autre
Détails ci dessous
Here'''s the No. 1 thing that makes relationships successful, say psychologists who studied 40,000 couples
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Coded the behavior of 52 couples during an oral history interview and during an interaction task to determine what qualities predicted divorce or marital stability. Ss completed follow-up questionnaires 3 yrs later. Time 1 variables were able to significantly predict which couples would be separated, divorced, or intact at follow-up. At Time 1, couples who eventually divorced were low in fondness for their partners, high in negativity, low in "we-ness," high in chaos, low in glorifying the struggle, and high in disappointment of the marriage. Gender differences in these variables were found. In the behavioral coding of the marital interaction, these dimensions also were consistently related to negativity and the absence of positivity in problem solving as well as to negative affect.
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De plus les femmes recherchent aussi un homme qui est bienveillant envers elles (pas obligatoirement envers les autres cf la dark triad).
La dark triad c'est bien cool, mais l'investissement/la bienveillance/la positivité/la solidarité = indicateurs plus pertinents pour determiner la reussite du couple bien devant le narcissime ou le machiavélisme.
Par contre pour devenir un player oui, plus t'es dark triad plus t'es sexy.
Faut être les deux : psychopathe et bienveillant.
